Ep 061 // Stop Pushing So Hard & Do These 3 Things Instead

The dreaded "Sunday Scaries" ... chances are you've had 'em.

You know, that feeling on a Sunday that you are so overwhelmed by the thought of the week ahead, it can be hard to even get a good breath in your lungs? It's easy to get lost in that "how am I going to get through this? What can I DO to fix this??" panic. 

I am the controlling type -- I like answers. I don't even mind stressful situations. But not having it all out on the table? Uncertainty? Nope, we're not friends.

So I tend to push, push, push as HARD as I can -- for clarity, for progress, for direction, for resolution.

It doesn't help. Or maybe it helps, to a point, but eventually you get stuck and no amount of pushing moves the ball forward. It's like pushing a block into a brick wall.

So what then? I asked this question and heard some stuff back. I wanna share it with you.

In this special Facebook Live encore episode, I'm dishing: 

  • A story of a revelation I had about major Sunday stress while I was in the shower -- it prompted this episode
  • 3 things you can do, right away, to stop feeling so exhausted by the effort and relax into true acceptance instead
  • A popular Instagram trope I can't stand, and how I suggest we edit it for massive improvement 

Ep 060 // 5 Ways to Grow a Business with a Tiny Social Media Following with Rachel Sandall

In this episode, Rachel Sandall is back on the show for Part 2 -- her Clarity episode!  

It can be super intimidating to start a business when you look at your "heroes" and see they have 10k, 20k, 100k or even more followers. It can leave you wondering, how can I ever get that many people to pay attention to me?

The good news is that you don't need so many people. Rachel is here to tell us about how it's completely possible to grow a profitable business with a small social media following, and she's got 5 actionable tips to get us started right away.  

In this Clarity episode, you'll hear: 

  • The under utilized power of your personal network 
  • Which method Rachel recommends for having an easy excuse to keep getting in front of your ideal customers 
  • One big tip for getting more exposure fast -- even though this one might make you nervous! 
  • How to partner with influential people, even if your following is small 
  • What Rachel recommends you offer to people in order to grow meaningfully, not just vanity metrics 

Ep 059 // Are "Rock Bottom Moments" Actually a Secret Weapon for Success?

This week I'm chatting with Rachel Sandall, social media maven and owner behind Sandall Social and Inhouss! 


When I connected with Rachel, I was fascinated by her two stories of rock bottom moments. She attributes a lot of her success to that make-it-or-break-it mindset. 

In this Courage episode, you'll hear: 

  • How this entrepreneur built not one, but two successful businesses with her back against the wall both times
  • How a 23 year old Editor in Chief found herself scrambling to avoid working at Starbucks
  • A creative idea for hiring help, even if you have zero money to spare right now  
  • How a rock bottom moment led Rachel and her husband to go into business together, folding his expertise in with hers

Ep 058 // How to Give Yourself a Break Without Giving Up

There's a trend I’ve noticed with entrepreneurs who find success: it's DILIGENCE. Discipline. They’re playing the long game. 

As such, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. And sometimes in a marathon, we must pace ourselves.

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BUT we must use caution here — sometimes “taking a break” can turn into hanging out at the water station for a while which turns into, "eh, I don’t need to finish this race anyway, I think I’ll just quietly quit."

So what’s a stressed out, exhausted, emotionally spent entrepreneur to do? We don’t want to quit, and we don’t want to burn out. How do we do this dance? 

In this solocast episode, I'm exploring the space between pressing pause and powering through. I'm talking about how to take "a break with guidelines" -- it's a super honest episode about *my* current season, what I've learned, and what I did wrong.

Here's what you'll hear: 

  • An honest "coming clean" on my part, spilling about what's going on in my life and why I think it's important to share with you
  • Why I believe we have fears around taking a break from our creative pursuits 
  • The dangers of taking a break -- what we need to be aware of to avoid stepping back and never returning 
  • What I wish I did differently during this season, and what I'll change next time 

Ep 057 // How to Stop Fighting Against Your Life & Fall in Love With It Instead with Catherine Rains

There aren't enough words to describe how excited I am for you all to hear this conversation I'm having with Catherine Rains, also known as The Hotel Artist! 

Alternate titles for this episode include: 

  • "Catherine Rains blows Steph's mind live on the air waves"

  • "Stop everything & listen to this" 

  • "Don't listen to this if you want to keep making excuses & staying stuck" 

In seriousness, it feels like I am telling you week after week that another of my "favorite episodes" is being published, which is such a cool feeling. 

But this episode is truly special. For one, the "Courage" & "Clarity" components are fused together in one jumbo episode because they were too intertwined to separate. 

Beyond that, Catherine is a captivating, open-book type storyteller who's got a few decades on me. As such, you'll hear her drop so much wisdom on me, I'm doing mental gymnastics live on the air just to keep up. 

There's so much growth here, so much to think about, and so much easy-to-apply-immediately mindset stuff that you really need to hear. 

In this episode, you'll hear: 

  • How to stop fighting AGAINST your circumstances, and instead learn to work WITH them 
  • A few precise mantras to help you stop dwelling in "tomorrow", "what if", "if only" & "someday"
  • How Catherine used this mindset shift to go from hating her job, to loving it so much she cried when her dream job came along 
  • How Catherine was able to believe that cancer & divorce were amazing gifts, even as they were happening to her

I know there's a lot of "mindset" and "positivity" stuff out there, but this episode resonated with me on a deeper level than many of the other books I've picked up or podcasts I've heard before. I hope you find the same to be true, and if you do, you have to let me know! 

Ep 056 // Sick of Hearing About "Gratitude"? Here's a Fresh Approach to Feeling Grateful (For Real)

I'm willing to bet you've heard a good bit of hype about the "power of gratitude".

These days gratitude, meditation and journaling practices have stepped into the main stage, and while that's a very exciting thing, does anyone else just not feel it sometimes? 


We’ve all been there: you go to journal about what you’re grateful for. You write some things. “I’m grateful for my business. I’m grateful for my family. I’m grateful for my health.”

…. but then, not only does it not “get you anywhere”, you feel even worse because gratitude isn't “working”.

You may wonder, "What’s wrong with me? Why don’t I really feel anything about these words?"

In today's special Live Podcast recording, we're talking about how to reverse engineer gratitude. 

We need to shift from an intellectual practice -- empty, hollow words we can't quite sink our teeth into -- to an emotional practice, one that resonates on the deepest level, and translates into an instant mood lift. 

It's possible to feel what you hope to feel right away, and I hope this quick mental shift does the trick for you. 



Ep 055 // Exactly How to Build Courses That Change Lives & Get Real Results with Janelle Allen (Clarity)

It's the moment you've been waiting for -- we're going DEEP into the topic of course creation with a total expert. 

Janelle Allen is an Instructional Designer, which is code for "this lady really knows what it takes to create courses that make customers say 'YES!' instead of 'Meh.'"

If you're interested in creating courses, or maybe you've even tried but feel things could have gone better, this episode is for you. 

In this Clarity episode, you'll hear: 

  • The HOW behind creating courses that change lives 
  • WHY we have so much resistance towards truly listening to our customers before taking action
  • Where to start before you ever launch a killer course 
  • The concept of "backwards design", which helps you reverse-engineer courses that really work
  • Real examples of what a good "learning goal" sounds like 
  • The danger of "fuzzy goals" and how they majorly turn customers off
  • Things you probably think matter, but DON’T

Ep 054 // Closing a Six Figure Business in Favor of Fun & Energy with Janelle Allen (Courage)

This week on the podcast we're welcoming course creator & long-time Fizzler, Janelle Allen! 

As an Instructional Designer, she's trained to identify and solve learning gaps. She builds world-class online courses that gets results for her clients' businesses. 

In this Courage episode, you'll hear: 

  • The story of how Janelle built a 6 figure instructional design agency
  • ... and the difficult decision to close that agency to pursue curiosity instead
  • How emails & comments Janelle received became clues about her future 
  • What janelle did for the first year before ever creating her first course  
  • How Janelle fused her natural skill with the needs of her followers
  • The balance between "pressure to succeed" and "space to create" — how much financial runway should you have before making a new leap? 

Ep 053 // The Only Thing You Need to Beat Overwhelm & Finally Focus

Remember that time I started recording LIVE podcast episodes with you? Well, we're back for Round 2! 



Over on the Courage & Clarity Facebook page, I've been testing out some podcast recording with you during a LIVE session. It's been so fun so far!

This episode's topic was inspired by a C&C listener, Jodi. Here's what she requested:

"How do you deal with overwhelm when transitioning to or setting up your own biz? Sooooo many choices, so much info... so I want to hear something about how to find focus and stay focused!"

In this episode, you'll hear: 

  • 3 big threats you need to avoid when you're just starting out
  • THE most important thing you need to do to stop feeling overwhelmed and start feeling focused
  • Why you STILL aren't jumping in, even if you know you should 
  • A 3 pronged approach to gauging your progress & tweaking to improve quickly

Ep 052 // 12 Questions to Ask When You Need to Be Brave with Emily ann peterson (Clarity)

We're back for Round 2 with Emily Ann Peterson, and this time we are getting deep into a subject I've never thought too much about: bravery. 


Have you ever thought about bravery as a concept that is as much science as it is art?

Until I talked with Emily Ann Peterson, I always thought bravery was one of those things that people either had or they didn't. Real deal bravery is reserved for heroes, selfless people and storybook characters. 

But in this episode, Emily Ann gives us a recipe for bravery -- we break it down into 12 ingredients, almost as though we're cutting bravery open to examine what it's made of. 

Emily Ann brings an extremely approachable perspective on bravery, and with her tips in mind we can all strategically get our bravery on, right away. 

In this Clarity episode, you'll hear: 

  • The 12 ingredients of bravery -- 3 big ingredients and 3 sub-ingredients for each 
  • 12 questions to ask yourself next time you're terrified and you know you need to do something brave  
  • A concrete method for incorporating more bravery into our businesses 
  • How we can boost our own confidence when we need to make a bold move
  • How to make sure your bravery resonates and connects with others, maximizing the results of your efforts

Ep 051 // How to be brave when your dreams get crushed with emily ann peterson (courage)

This week it's my absolute pleasure to welcome Emily Ann Peterson to the podcast!  



Emily Ann Peterson, host of the Bare Naked Bravery podcast, is  a singer / songwriter and a marketing consultant / coach. Specifically, she helps creative misfits (and other people who don't feel like they quite "belong") to show up and do their meaningful work. 

But it wasn't always this way. Before this chapter, Emily Ann was a cellist & cello teacher who had been playing her instrument for most of her life. 

When a devastating diagnosis turned her world upside down, she had to figure out how to navigate a new world. 

She had to learn to be brave. 

In this Courage episode, you'll hear:

  • A gripping story of an artist who lost her craft -- how it happened, and how she picked up the pieces
  • How to navigate the future when your life plans are completely altered, despite your best effort 
  • What to do when your success in your business or craft is completely out of your control 
  • The 3 main ingredients of bravery: vulnerability, imagination & improvisation